What should be in the app we are developing?

We are developing an app that will help young people deal with violence in their relationships. We are using ideas from everyone who has been involved in the research. Tell us what you think the app should do. So far young people have suggested games and quizes, and ways of personalising the app and keeping it private. What do you think?

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July 2nd, 2014 8:45am

Hi STIR UK 30! About the title of the app, "Get Me Out of Here" would not work in Italian and it is not related to anything for us (don't think we have that reality show/tv series here). Also, it would be too long in Italian (something like "Portatemi via da qui"). We should find a title that works in all languages, translated or not. What do you think? STIR UK 31, half of us voted against the panic button - this does not necessarily mean that we don't want it at all. We could maybe have it available for people who will actually use it.

July 1st, 2014 9:50pm

Can the questions and the maze be combined? We think it would be great to have a few questions to start off, then a bit of a maze, then some more questions when you get to a dead end. It could be some of the same questions.Just don't put all of the at once - it would be too much.

June 6th, 2014 9:23am

We tried to work out the points system for the 'Are you a good partner?' test. Everyone will come out as unhealthy with these questions. No-one is perfect - it should say mainly healthy but you might want to think about how you treat each other sometimes'. Or the questions need to be more obviously abusive or not abusive.

June 6th, 2014 9:18am

On some websites where people may go for help if abuse, there is usually a button to click to make it untraceable and not appear in the history. Can you do this with apps?

June 6th, 2014 9:14am

There are only 3 ratings at the moment abusive, unhealthy and healthy. It should be scaled more so you get points so that at the end you come out with a response that can be 'you are in danger' or 'there are some things you might want to think carefully about your relationship to make sure it does not become abusive' or 'typical relationship - some things are occasionally not so good but you know this', 'really great relationship'.

June 6th, 2014 9:05am

Some of the questions would mean that everybody is going to think they are in an abusive relationship. Sometimes people can be a bit jealous and most teenagers are paranoid about their partner going with someone else at some point in their relationship. This doesn't mean it is abusive - it is when this becomes persistent that it is.

June 6th, 2014 8:55am

We looked at the questions for a quiz. Most of them are abusive and unhealthy. Should there be more positive ones so that it is showing what a good relationship is too?

June 6th, 2014 8:52am

We thought that the quiz questions are too long and it is not interactive enough. Not keen on the storyboard idea. STIR ITALY YPAG - we were sad that you didn't like the idea of something that can hide what is happening quickly like the panic button. If you just use the home button on a smartphone it hasn't really changed the open app screen and it is also obvious that you are trying to hide something. We feel really strongly about this as it may make looking at the app difficult for some people.

June 6th, 2014 8:46am

Hi STIR ITALY YPAG. We thought of the maze idea because it makes it more interesting - everybody is fed up of quizzes they can be a bit boring. Also the maze idea means that you can see you are progressing through the questions and it can give something visual to show how you have responded to each answer. We don't agree that @Get me Out of Here!' is too long but is it really long in Italian? It plays on the popular TV series and we thought we could ask celebrities in each country to appear and give supporting statements.

June 6th, 2014 8:32am

I think the quiz ideas and questions are too long. I don't know if I could look at it that long especially in school - we are supposed to turn our phones off all day and staff even check the toilets to make sure we aren't using them.

June 6th, 2014 8:29am

The ideas for the quiz are a bit confusing inclusding some of the questions. I thought some of the wording is confusing and needs to be more specific. Such as your partner controls social media - what does that mean?

June 6th, 2014 8:27am

We looked at the ideas for the storyboard app. Not keen on this as it asks you to say why the pictures are right or wrong - we don't think young people will spend time doing this. It needs to be quick to work and easy to hide. We did like the mix of boys and girls though.

June 6th, 2014 8:23am

There needs to be really good local information about places to go to for support.

June 6th, 2014 8:23am

A shorter name is a good idea.

June 6th, 2014 8:23am

We want a quiz combined with a maze, so that when you respond to questions with answers that look like you will be getting into a more dangerous situation, that you end up in a dead end and then you get given a piece of advice.

STIR Norway 19
May 30th, 2014 12:38pm

The design needs to be clean, simple, not messy, not too many colors, a little bit glossy.

STIR Norway 18
May 30th, 2014 12:38pm

The app itself should give some advice after completing the test. It's on a higher threshold to expect teenagers to actively seek out more information through the links. One example could be to advice People in unhealthy relationships to talk to a friend.

STIR Norway 17
May 30th, 2014 12:36pm

In the app store the information needs to be concise and Clear cut. Also include screen shots of the app.

STIR Norway 16
May 30th, 2014 12:35pm

If you link to information online I would be more positive to more text. Videos would also be great. But the app needs to be "lightweight" and specific.

STIR Norway 15
May 30th, 2014 12:34pm

If someone scores high on abusive relationship they could have some follow up questions With more severe questions (like have you been beaten, threatened With a weapon etc.). If they answer yes to any of those questions they could get a strong recommendation that they contact the police, get out of the immediate situation or something.

STIR Norway 14
May 30th, 2014 12:33pm

That anything With a score higher than 0 is characterized as an unhealthy relationship seems a bit harsh.

STIR Norway 13
May 30th, 2014 12:32pm

I would like a conclusion at the end where I can backtrack to those questions that indicated an unhealthy relationship and have some more information!

STIR Norway 12
May 30th, 2014 12:31pm

It's important to inform the users that messing around and other harmless situations should not be interpreted as abuse.

STIR Norway 11
May 30th, 2014 12:30pm

It would be Nice if we could see what others have scored on the tests. It could make People feel less alone in their situation.

STIR Norway 10
May 30th, 2014 12:29pm

If the scores from the app tests are being sent inn it needs to specifically state that in the description.

STIR Norway 9
May 30th, 2014 12:29pm

The idea to evealuate Your relationship is great! Everyone is wondering if their relationships are healthy!

STIR Norway 8
May 30th, 2014 12:28pm

I want it to say that it's a app made by adults (in Cooperation With researchers), and that teenagers have adviced them in the Development. But I would be sceptical if it was portrayed as an app made by teenagers.

STIR Norway 7
May 30th, 2014 12:27pm

It's a good idea to be able to also check if I'm a good partner myself.

STIR Norway 6
May 30th, 2014 12:26pm

The app icon needs to be inconspicious so it doesn't reveal what the app is about.

STIR Norway 5
May 30th, 2014 12:26pm

The app should have it's own password. That way, if I'm using the app and someone walks inn, I can Close it and leave my phone without worrying about someone seeing what I was doing on the phone.

STIR Norway 4
May 30th, 2014 12:25pm

I would like information about where to find support services or further information, at the end of the test.

STIR Norway 3
May 30th, 2014 12:24pm

I think it's a really great idea to have a test to see if my relationship is healthy!

STIR Norway 2
May 30th, 2014 12:23pm

If there's too much text in the app we won't use it. Bigger amounts of text is easier to handle if it's online in a web browser.

STIR Norway 1
May 30th, 2014 12:21pm

The app needs to be easy to use, with a simple layout and localized language.

May 27th, 2014 3:43pm

- About half of the YPAG thought that the panic button could be redundant as they would not think about using it – they’d rather click the “home” button on the smartphone and pretend they weren’t doing anything. - The first thing they would look at to decide whether they want to download the app is the icon and the rating by other users – however, they would download it because they acted as consultants for this project and they would be happy to contribute to increasing the rating of the app. - Second most important thing would be the title – they didn’t like “Get me out of here” as a title, and thought that something shorter is needed, for example “(Get me) Outta here”. - They think that some content should change every day – e.g. a new story every day or a new sentence/aphorism every day. - They would like an interactive story, which unfolds differently according to the decisions that the users make. - A story and a quiz could already be enough content for the app – they won’t download anything too big (not too many MB). - At the end of the quiz, relationship profiles should be included – i.e. your relationship is…profile of a healthy/abusive/violent/etc. relationship - Self-evaluation of the relationship before taking the quiz could be interesting but it would probably influence the answers students give when taking the quiz – so maybe it should be avoided.

May 18th, 2014 7:38am

Because young people don't talk to adults about personal issues of their relationships, you can include one section in the app which could be 'advise from a friend'. When something bad happens in our relationship we always turn to our friends so if young people want to know where they can get help, they definitely will go to the section 'advise from a friend' first . This section will be like as if you're really talking to a friend. It should be youthful, use the language that young people use, use examples that young people can relate to... It's like this electronic friend can really get into your 'psychology' and understand you without judging . The difference from a 'real' friend will be that this 'electronic' friend will really know what he's talking about, he's really knowledgeable and will tell you the right thing to do in your relationship when things are not going well

May 18th, 2014 7:27am

I would never talk to my parents or my teachers or other adults about unhealthy things that happen in my relationships because I feel I can't trust them or that it is a taboo or I am afraid I will be embarrassed to talk to them about something so personal. From our discussion today I think that it is important that teenagers do talk to adults, especially if it's something serious. The part of the app which is about 'where you can get help' should encourage young people to seek help from adults, include why it is important that they do that. It's like the app can help you understand the 'benefits' of asking for help from someone older and encourage you not be afraid or embarrassed to do that

May 18th, 2014 7:03am

There should be certain stories that can help girls understand that what happens in a relationships is not always their fault. I see from myself and my friends that every time we have a fight with our boyfriends we blame ourselves. Girls should have 'more ego' (more self confidence) and demand better understanding and more freedom in a relationship

May 18th, 2014 6:55am

The app could have different short scenarios/stories which could present some 'difficult' aspects of a relationship: for instance he doesn't let you go out with your friends, or he's very jealous, or he gets angry with you a lot and can't control his temper or a girl who is really dependent or 'stuck' on a boy, or a boy who pressures a girl to do sexual staff with him which she doesn't want to, things like that. Teenagers could read these scenarios and they could identify themselves in the stories. This way they can understand that what happens in their relationship is not so healthy. Girls normally get very dependent on boys while boys can be more demanding in relationships (especially sexually). We need to understand that this is not 'normal'

May 16th, 2014 2:09pm

The app can send hints on how to make your partner feel good. They may be also funny. For instance, have a reminder saying "Bring your beloved one a chocolate (as far as it fits her/his diet that day)"

May 16th, 2014 2:06pm

There should be some personal stories included in the app, so that you can relate to others' experience and realize that it is not only you that has been target of something like that. And also see that it is not your fault. There should be some hints on how to act but most importantly, we should direct people to resources of support - talking to a psychologist, a helpline, etc, because the relationship issues are very complicated and there is no right decision in every situation.

May 16th, 2014 2:01pm

It will be great to include a quiz to assess the quality of the relation like STIRITUP UK 22 suggested. But having yes/no options is very judgmental. Also, almost everything is acceptable if it does not make you feel bad. So, it will be great to have questions about how you feel in different aspects of the relationship and then have a scale with emoticons (very bad, bad, neutral, good, very good). For example: How do you feel about ........ in that relationship (choose the emoticon that reflects the way you feel right now) - myself - the future of the relationship - the support you receive - the amount of attention you receive - understanding from your partner - trust - social life - visibility/publicity - sex and intimacy - respect - shared interests - openness - communication - privacy and personal space We can add hints next to each aspect that suggested that there can be lack of these things or excess of these things and it can be just the right amount and what counts is the way you feel about it At the end you get some cumulative result of how your relationship feels like together with some suggestions. It should have history, so that you can see how you felt though time and track if things get better or worse with your relationship. It is good also to see how your feelings about different aspects of the relationship change. The app may send some discreet notifications to re-assess your relationship from time to time.

May 16th, 2014 1:42pm

The app should be serious, because the problem is serious and we don't want people to think violence is a game. There is no need for music or other fun staff, if someone whats to listen to music, she can go to youtube. Indeed, the name of the app should be neutral as boyfriends and girlfriends tend to peak into each others' phones. It could be framed as a general tool for assessing friendship like friend-o-meter or something like that.

April 18th, 2014 11:58am

Get out game like 'pac-man'. Need a button on main app - Get me out of here/panic button. Should slide to other screen quickly. As you progress through the questions you could also progress around the maze. Should be able to personalise the icon for the app or character for the maze. It should be different depending on where you got it e.g. girls or boys version. Use the questions we have been developing to help decide whether you are in an abusive relationship. Use statements and agree/disagree/sometimes to see whether you are in danger of being abused or are already in an abusive relationship. May need hint buttons to explain the questions. It would be great if we could link to stories from celebrities from each country who have been in abusive relationships and will talk about this. Use colour coding and percentages on the quiz.

April 18th, 2014 11:44am

Questions for the App: Questions we really like: Does your partner treat you with respect? (but have more answers as options) Are you happy in your relationship? (provide a scale 1-10) Does your partner hit you? Does your partner hurt you? (Needs to indicate both physical and mental hurt) Is your partner violent? Does your partner do the right thing? (Very open question - in a controlling relationship they make you think you are wrong) Do they always admit things? E.g. using condom or being a parent? Do they cheat on you? (App should provide a hurt button of how to read the signs). Does your partner stop you from seeing your friends? (Give options - same sex friends/opp sex) Do you love your partner? (Some might not know) Does your partner comment about the way you dress? (scale good and bad - yes good/ yes bad/ tells you how to dress/ looks out for you and how you dress) Does your partner listen to you? (Appreciate you/ respect opinion/ can you compromise?) Do you feel comfortable with your partner? (Around partner/ safe around partner/ confident around partner) Are you happy together? (May be better than do you love them) Other questions that were more confusing: How much time do you spend with your boyfriend? (Different opinions/ is it negative? Maybe how much time would you like to spend with them?) Does your partner go with the opposite sex? Does your partner respect you and your family and his family? (Depends on each relationship) Do you experience abuse? (Split into physical, mental, emotional) Does you partner buy you presents/gifts for special occasions? (Can be controlled with presents but also what some would wish more of) How much time do you spend together? (Does your partner give you your own space? Do you compromise? Are they embarrassed to be seen with you?)

April 18th, 2014 11:25am

App Name: Get Me Out of Here!!

April 18th, 2014 11:24am

Ideas for the app: It could give daily advice - comment for the day; Make sure people know it is not their fault and boost their self esteem. It should have a game screen that can be quickly changed to so that they can hide what app they are on if a partner looks over shoulder. A maze rather than a ladder might work better. There should be numbers but not answers. QR codes should be made available so it can be quickly scanned from posters.

April 18th, 2014 11:19am

These are some more ideas for a ladder of relationship abuse that could be used on the app: Major: sexual abuse, physical abuse, checking phone, making continuous comments, verbal abuse - putting me down, body image pressure - from anyone who is threatening you, checking your media - arguments over texts and media. Moderate: Trying to isolate you, jealousy, causing issues with friendship goups Minor: Name calling, commenting on personal appearance, talking about other relationships, comparing you to other people, forcing hair styles, clothing choices, perfumes on you.

STIR Cyprus 10
April 18th, 2014 11:04am

Can the app have a tool that can help you ‘assess’ whether your relationships is healthy or not? Like a questionnaire that you answer and then you can ‘score’ your answers to see if certain behaviors in the relationship are healthy or not

STIR Cyprus 9
April 18th, 2014 11:03am

The app needs to include info particularly on how the new media can affect young people’s relationships. Like the video we watched about sexting (‘Megan’s Story’).

STIR Cyprus 8
April 18th, 2014 11:02am

I think the app should also be interactive somehow. For instance it can include the various ‘polls’. Not only the results of the polls but also the opportunity to vote on a topic. And to be interactive in other ways so it can be interesting. To include videos for instance. Not just plain information.

STIR Cyprus 7
April 18th, 2014 11:01am

UK 14 we like your suggestion very much! We think what we can also ‘expand’ the ‘ ladder of jealousy’ to include a ‘ladder’ of various forms of violence. Starting from ‘mild’ forms of abuse (like checking up on someone, checking your partner’s mobile phone etc) which are more or less ‘green’ or similar, then moving on to more serious forms of abuse (orange) to the most serious forms of abuse (Red). This can also be part of the app as well

April 18th, 2014 11:00am

We think what to do depends on the different levels of jealousy. We are going to develop a ladder of jealousy. We’d like this to be part of the ap. We will do it in the next four weeks. It will start with low level feelings (green) that nobody acts on. Then medium level (orange) things to be concerned about. Then high level(red) alarm things

April 18th, 2014 10:59am

When we develop an ap we should have some of it simpler for younger people. This will mean changing words for different ages and abilities. Changing format for disabilities like dyslexia. Have age appropriate sections

April 18th, 2014 10:58am

Here are the comments that have been made about the app so far. We thought we would copy them to this discussion to get things started - hope this is OK?!


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