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Young People’s Advisory Group

This website is part of a research project. We are trying to find out about violence in teenage relationships and how to stop it. Young people from five countries are advising this project. We really want to hear from you.

This month we have a lot of themes to discuss. The suggestions below come from young people in Italy. Some people are also starting to talk about the Ap and you can see this on the last page of the discussions http://stiritup.eu/topics/ideas-for-the-ap/.

Tell us what you think would help end violence in teenage relationships.

  • Your ideas will be discussed with teenagers in other countries.
  • Your ideas will inspire people.

Leave your comments on the discussion themes below. All comments will be moderated, so check back in a couple of days.

We give people aliases – STIR UK 19 or STIR ITALY 7 – so don’t tell us your real names when you post, just make one up.

Discussion Theme

Some of the big questions we are dealing with...

Is it fair for parents to have their say on their children’s relational issues?

Do you think that your partner should be allowed to limit your freedom to a certain extent?

Does what we think about sexual pressure change if you are in a stable relationship or if it is only a flirt?

What are the reasons behind quarrels between young people in a relationship?

Please tell us your ideas on any or all of these themes.

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Stir UK 38
February 23rd, 2015 7:46pm

The arguments and inflammatory comments of young people on Facebook often build up so much in our town that they have a derogatory affect on young peoples social lives, home life and school. At this time of the year finalising work towards exams and qualifications is paramount and additional stresses can be very damaging. Well being and careers can have on going influences by negative actions flippantly breaking down relationships. Young people are often fearful of help and educating them to accept what support is offered is paramount to their reaching their full potential and not being disaffected.

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StiritupCyprus20
May 18th, 2014 8:53am

You should interfere with what your partner can and cannot do only when you're not sure if she will do something that can upset you. If you know that she will be ok, then you shouldn't limit her freedom. But if she does things that make you feel uncomfortable, like getting together with a group of boys when you're not there, or frequently talking to other boys that are her 'friends' then it's ok to get jealous and ask her to stop doing things.

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StiritupCyprus19
May 18th, 2014 8:34am

My mum wants to have a say in my life and even though we have a good relationship and talk about many things, I don't want to talk to her about my relationship. I think she will really pressure me to know what is happening in relation to the sexual front and I don't feel comfortable to talk to her about such issues. If she found out that my boyfriend and I are thinking of being more sexually active she would be like 'Hold on a second! Stop this relationship now!'. This is why I don't let her have a say in my relationship. However to be honest, even though I don't ask her, I know that deep down I would trust her advice more than what my friends tell me

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StiritupCyprus18
May 18th, 2014 8:28am

My mum is my best friend. When my dad left us we got very close. So I tell her everything about my relationship and she always gives me very good advise. Because she really knows me, she can always tell me what is better for me. So I would never have a problem to ask for her help. I think that her advice is better than the advice that my friends give me

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StiritupCyprus17
May 18th, 2014 8:26am

Parents should not a have a say in their children's relationship issues. Even though they think they should. My parents are very strict when it comes to these issues. If I told my parents what is happening in my relationship they would forbid me to go out with my boyfriend. So I never talk to them about it

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StiritupCyprus16
May 18th, 2014 8:21am

When I am with a girl I need to feel that she is mine. I need everyone to understand that. So, yes, there are certain things she can do and certain things she can not do. Like she should not be around other boys if I am not there. Of course I will not lock her in the house, I would never limit that freedom, she can go out. Anyways, she can have equal demands on me. It's only fair and equal if we have the same expectations from each other

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StiritupCyprus15
May 18th, 2014 8:17am

Girls usually don't understand that their freedom is limited in a relationship because they get too dependent on boys. It's like what the boy says 'goes' and the girl has to abide by it

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